Becoming a new Mum is a life-changing experience filled with joy, love, and a whole lot of stress. With a new baby to care for 24/7, it can be tough to make it through the day. But don't worry, you're not alone! Here are some tips and tricks to help you survive those early days of motherhood.

Get as much sleep as possible.

As a new mum, sleep can be somewhat non-existence, I mean some are lucky but others are not so much! Try to nap when the baby naps (I know, I know, you have to clean, you feel guilty and so on), and take it from me don't be afraid to ask for help from friends, family, or a partner if you need it. The more rest you can get, the better equipped you'll be to handle the challenges of the day ahead.

Prioritise self-care.

The most important thing I learnt was, you need to look after yourself to look after others properly. It's important to take care of yourself, even if that means putting your own needs aside for a little while. Take a shower, get dressed, and eat a healthy meal. Even just a few minutes of self-care can make a big difference in how you feel. Practice mindfulness by focusing on the present moment and letting go of worries about the past or future. TAKE IT ONE DAY AT A TIME!

Ask for help.

You don't have to do it all on your own. Reach out to friends and family for help with tasks like meal prep, cleaning, or just a little extra support. And don't be afraid to ask for help from your partner if they are available. When my first child hit 9 months old, she was suffering from some health issues and I was tired, very, very tired, I didn’t ask for help because I thought if I did, it meant I was a failure. I wish I listened, but I didn’t learn after my third was born, I had 3 under 3.5 (yeah, yeah, I hear you, “crazy” I know, but I loved it) I never asked for help and I became all about the kids and lost who I was as a person!

Embrace the chaos.

Motherhood can be messy, chaotic, and unpredictable. Try to embrace the chaos, and remember that it's okay if everything isn't perfect. Focus on what's important, and don't stress about the little things. Social media is full of people posting picture-perfect homes, let me tell you something, that is their job/aim, the idea is to make people think it’s real! Don’t fall for it, yes, for some people, it is a reality and I take my hat off to them, but 80% of homes are not picture-perfect. With my 3 being so close in age, I quickly learnt to have a messy corner and only cleaned it at the end of the day. Let them make fun memories! My kids love seeing what they used to do.

Find moments of joy.

Amidst the chaos, it's important to find moments of joy and happiness. Whether it's cuddling with your baby, reading a book, or taking a walk outside, find activities that bring you joy and make time for them each day.

Connect with other mums.

This is my biggest regret! I made everything about the children, kinder gym, play cafes, playgrounds and other activities, was all I did. let me tell you, it was lonely! It can be helpful to connect with other mums who are going through the same thing. Join a local mum's group or join an online community to find support, advice, and a sense of community. These online groups weren’t around when my loves were little, it is so much easier today, but don’t fall into the trap of staying home and online. Get out and meet other mums. I you love to exercise, consider joining a mom-and-baby exercise class or other activity where you can meet other moms with similar interests.

"Develop a routine that works for you and your baby, and be flexible to make adjustments as needed."

This was the best rule that I followed, I went from working in child care to having my first bub and having a routine was the best thing we did.

Being a new mum is a huge adjustment but also an unbelievably rewarding experience. By prioritizing self-care, asking for help, embracing the chaos, and finding moments of joy, you can make it through the day and thrive as a new mum.

If you are struggling in all areas, don’t be afraid to reach out to a professional, it’s ok not to be ok but it’s not ok to not get help. There are many free services that can help.